HOW TO TALK TO A LOVED ONE ABOUT DRIVING CONCERNS

Having concerns about your loved ones driving safety is completely normal and often can be a very sensitive issue to talk about. A driver’s license can signify more than the ability to drive a car, it can be a symbol of freedom, independence and self-sufficiency. Therefore it isn’t something you want to take away from them if there driving is of a sufficient standard. However when you are concerned for their safety and the safety of others it is time to talk to the older friend or family member about their driving and your concerns for them. As this isn’t an easy position to be put in, Saisen et al, 2013 describes some important things to remember when talking to the elderly person.

First of all be respectful as for many seniors driving is an integral part of independence. You need to give specific examples like “You just can’t drive safely anymore.” And outline concerns that you have noticed, such as “You have a harder time turning your head than you used to,” or “You braked suddenly at stop signs three times the last time we drove.”

Sometimes finding more than one family member or close friend to help you through this talk may help.  A loved one may also listen to a more impartial party, such as a doctor or driving specialist. It is important that if you are having the talk then you need to help them find alternatives to driving and possibly offering rides when possible may also ensure how much you care about them.

Its time to turn over the keys!!!

References

Saisan, J., White, M., Robinson, L. (2013). Age and Driving. Retrieved from 
http://www.helpguide.org/elder/senior_citizen_driving.htm